Ganbold quoted Anxious People by Fredrik Backman
Looking at real estate isn’t usually a life-or-death situation, but an apartment open house becomes …
'Because I can see that you don't want to let people get close to you. It makes you feel weak. But I don't think you're afraid of being hurt, I think you're afraid of hurting other people. You're a more emphathetic and moral person than you like to admit.'
— Anxious People by Fredrik Backman (Page 459)
and once again, it reminds me of an avoidant